Things I've Learned In My 20s

As I ready to enter a new decade, I figured I'd take time to reflect on my 20s.

July 21, 2020

On July 29th, I turn the big 3-0. 

It's funny because I feel like I just entered my 20s, however that was apparently 10 years ago now.

I've learned a lot in my 20s about not only myself, my life in general, as well as the world.

I thought I'd share some of that with you in hopes that no matter what stage of life you're in, you can take something from the experiences I've had over the past 10 years.

First, live every day like it's your last.

In my 20s, I lost 2 of my cousins before their 21st birthdays. My cousins Gregory and Amanda both were incredible humans with bright futures ahead of them and unfortunately, the heavens called them home at young ages.

This taught me to live each moment like it's my last chance to take a breath. 

It taught me to chase my dreams, love fiercly and deeply, and let go of regrets and grudges. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

Take care of your health.

In my early 20s, nearly every night I spent in a bar. Then, before hitting the Uber home, I'd get some greasy food to soak up any of the festivities from that night. 

I learned around my 27th birthday, that a lifestyle like that catches up to you and eventually wrecks your body.

I began eating better, exercising more, and simply moving as much as I could.

At 27, I was told I had high blood pressure. My doctor told me that it's not cemented in stone and that I could still get back on track but that I should do it sooner than later or I'd be looking at a heart attack by my 40th birthday.

Talk about a wake up call.

You're never too old to chase a dream. 

When I was 15, I had a dream to be on television. I saw kids in commercials and movies and said, "I want to do that!"

So, I did. In 2015, I signed my first talent contract and booked my first commercial a month later.

Since then, I've studied multiple acting methods, auditioned for major TV shows, appeared in countless commercials, and also took on a role in a TV pilot. 

Just because society says your late 20s means "you're getting older" doesn't mean it's a death sentence for your dreams and aspirations.

Use that as fuel to get better and go further.

My family bond strengthened as I grew older.

My family has always been very close, after all, there are 6 of us. (I'm the baby, aka the favorite.) ;) 

In my early 20s, I spent less time with family and more time with my friends, but as I grew older, that shifted. 

Now, I spend more time with my parents and brother and sisters than I do with my friends and I wouldn't have it any other way.

These are the same people who acted like I won an Oscar when I booked my first non-union commercial that aired only in Alabama for 6-months.


I've never been good with money. In fact, I used to think that I had to spend it all before my next paycheck. (Kidding, but I definitely never budgeted and would buy anything I wanted because I figured "I'll just make more.")

I learned when I bought my first house at 29, that saving money is a big deal.

I need to have a strong bank account to fix things in my house. What if an unexpected medical bill arises. What if I get a last minute invite to Europe and I want to go? 

All of these things come into play and it's important to save as much money as possible for a rainy day. (Or if you decide to buy a new iPad that costs $1000.)

Finally, life your life unapoligetically. 

I cannot stress this part enough. Be you. Be authentically you. 

If you know who you are and are afraid to show it because of what others may think, just know that one day you'll regret every moment you weren't true to yourself. 

People have a way of being drawn to confident people because it's appealing to see someone so sure of who they are in a world full of people who are still trying to find themselves.

And if you're still on that journey, then know one day, you'll discover that who you are is who you've always been. You just have to stop sometimes and allow yourself to feel that.